These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’

Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize.

maisiewilliams:

when they show a scene from two seasons ago in the “previously on” you know something fishy is about to happen

(Source: best-of-memes)

niggawitamacbook:

nobody scares me more than drunk white men in numbers.

(Source: blackberryshawty)

one direction - over again cover

(Source: paynegivemezayn)

(Source: whatismgmt)

straightboymamoru:

if a song was in shrek theres no way to un-associate it with shrek its forever going to be a shrek song

(Source: themisquartet)

christmasgirl94:

I keep going to the river to pray 
'Cos I need something that can wash out the pain
And at most I’m sleeping all these demons away
But your ghost, the ghost of you
It keeps me awake…

sageruto:

the fucking worst is when people are like “you hate people for having a different opinion than you!!!!” like im not shitting on this guy because he thinks pistachio ice cream is gross im shitting on him because he actually believes that i and people like me dont deserve basic human rights and respect and safety

harmonypowerhouse:

*develops new crush* *looks up star sign compatibility instead of actually talking to them*

(Source: r-roisin)

kingofwesteros:

i wouldn’t go as far as calling myself a bad bitch i’m more of a moderately mean young lady

bikenesmith:

im really tired of europeans on here reblogging posts about racism in america and adding shocked disapproving comments like “get it together america lol” as if there isn’t an enormous amount of racism in europe and as if it wasn’t the europeans that first colonized the new world that planted the seed of racism in north america

Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism.

Mary Pipher, Reviving Ophelia (via wetforest)

(Source: larmoyante)

mindmedicine:

Power - Kanye West

Aug. 30 4:11 pm

justice4mikebrown: