"Sometimes suffering is just suffering. It doesn’t make you stronger. It doesn’t build character. It only hurts."

- Kate Jacobs, Comfort Food (via cleamour)

fancybidet:

When did self worth get reduced to desirability?

didney-worl-no-uta:

admiralrainbow:

rirygoesrawr:

cyanide-poisoning:

Men Experiencing Labor Pains

With their wives supporting them.

HAHAHHAHAHA TOO GOOD

I bet a kick in the balls would feel real good right about then.

“Men can handle anything”

“Women exaggerate everything”

And then they realized just how wrong they were

homofauxbia:

It bothers me that people are literally profitting from my oppression. Straight but not Narrow doesn’t help queer people it “helps” allies, and they are making money by selling merchandise based on queer oppression, and not using that money to stop it. It boils my blood. 

"Many people do lack self-confidence, and there is certainly more pressure on women to be conscious of their own appearance than men, but is it really the case that women are more critical of that appearance than everyone else?

First of all, the whole entire world is critical of the way women look. Whether you are a supermodel, a teenager or even Secretary of State, if you’re a female, there are people all around you ready to tell you how bad your body looks. Secondly, the idea that women are valuable only for their beauty permeates nearly every facet of modern society, from the billboards we walk past to the social media we use daily. And this idea that women should be reduced to their appearance originated almost entirely in the minds and actions of men. And it is still largely perpetuated today by men – who run over 90% of our media.

So to say women are their own “worst critics” when it comes to beauty puts the blame on women for a beauty-obsessed, body-shaming and misogynistic world created and maintained largely by dudes."

- Imran Siddiquee, “Women Are Not Their Own Worst Beauty Critics” (via wretchedoftheearth)

"Under the current ‘tyranny of slenderness’ women are forbidden to become large or massive; they must take up as little space as possible. The very contours of a woman’s body takes on as she matures - the fuller breasts and rounded hips - have become distateful. The body by which a woman feels herself judged and which by rigorous discipline she must try to assume is the body of early adolescence, slight and unformed, a body lacking flesh or substance, a body in whose very contours the image of immaturity has been inscribed. The requirement that a woman maintain a smooth and hairless skin carries further the theme of inexperience, for an infantilized face must accompany her infantilized body, a face that never ages or furrows its brow in thought. The face of the ideally feminine woman must never display the marks of character, wisdom, and experience that we so admire in men."

- Sandra Lee Bartky, Foucault, Femininity, and the Modernization of Patriarchal Power (via sociophilia)

shikajika:

“Kids can’t learn about sexuality and gender because it’s too scary or confusing for them” yeah because YOU told them they there are ONLY straight men and straight women from the age of three and then used that limited scope an an excuse to carry on dodging the subject.

I found the seven times table scary and confusing but I still had to do about 20 exams about it

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#racism 

kamerlort:

do you ever just look at someone and know they would die in a zombie apocalypse

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#text post 

"Their sense of entitlement. Their sense that the world is their oyster, their home, their castle. It no longer feels like “this land was made for you and me,” as Woody Guthrie sang, but for somebody else. They’re tired of “being made to feel like losers,” as many of them put it. They’re tired of feeling that the game is over before they’ve even started to play. They’re tired of putting the damned toilet seat down every time, of saying “he or she” on their term papers, of calling people of color “people of color.” They’re tired of feeing like there is no mobility—or, if there is, someone else is climbing over them on the ladder of success. They want to escape to a world where men rule and where reality doesn’t get in the way."

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Michael Kimmel, Guyland

Ugh this is all so real and accurate

(via wretchedoftheearth)

"Many young men today have a shockingly strong sense of male superiority and a diminished capacity for empathy. They believe that the capacity for empathy and compassion has to be suppressed, early on, in the name of achieving masculinity. That this is true despite the progress of the women’s movement, parents who are psychologically aware and moral, stunning opportunities for men and women, is disappointing at best. But there is no way around it: Most young men who engage in acts of violence—or who watch them and do nothing, or who joke about them with their friends—fully subscribe to traditional ideologies about masculinity. The problem isn’t psychological; these guys aren’t deviants. If anything, they are overconforming to the hyperbolic expressions of masculinity that still inform American culture."

- Michael Kimmel, Guyland (via wretchedoftheearth)

"I asked all of the gay male students in the room to raise their hand if in the past week they touched a woman’s body without her consent. After a moment of hesitation, all of the hands of the gay men in the room went up. I then asked the same gay men to raise their hand if in the past week they offered a woman unsolicited advice about how to “improve” her body or her fashion. Once again, after a moment of hesitation, all of the hands in the room went up.

These questions came after a brief exploration of gay men’s relationship to American fashion and women’s bodies. That dialogue included recognizing that gay men in the United States are often hailed as the experts of women’s fashion and by proxy women’s bodies. In addition to this there is a dominant logic that suggests that because gay men have no conscious desire to be sexually intimate with women, our uninvited touching and groping (physical assault) is benign."

- Gay Men’s Sexism and Women’s Bodies by Yolo Akili (via plightofthepretty)

"Before one can feel rage at injustice, one has to love and fully recognise the humanity of the person to whom the injustice is being done, in order to perceive it as an injustice."

- Julia Long (via wretchedoftheearth)

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"Suppose a man makes unwanted social advances to a woman in, let’s say, a restaurant or theatre, and she eventually has to tell him loudly or angrily to get lost. She is the one who will be perceived as rude, hostile, aggressive, and obnoxious. His verbal aggression and invasiveness are accepted and expected; her rudeness (or mere curtness) in getting rid of him is noticed and condemned. One of our great myths is that a “real lady” can and should handle any difficulty, defuse any assault, without ever raising her voice or losing her manners. Female rudeness or violence in resistance to male aggression has often been taken to prove that the woman was not a lady in the first place, and therefore deserved no respect from the aggressor or sympathy from others."

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D.A. Clarke, “A Woman With a Sword” (via foodbeersexwhatever)

If you thought I was only going to reblog this once you were dead wrong

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